Ultimate Couple’s Bucket List: What To Do Together, Based on Your Love Styles

Valentine’s Day may be over for another year, but that doesn’t mean the romantic gestures have to end. If you’re looking to shake-up your date nights, we have just the list—a bucket list, to be exact. But this bucket list isn’t like all the others. Instead of being travel-focused, it gives you inspiration for great date ideas based on your partner’s Love Style. 

What’s a Love Style? Essentially, your Love Style is how you like to give and receive love. There are seven in total, and you and your partner will likely have one ‘top’ Love Style, closely followed by a few others. 

If you don’t know what your Love Style is, or that of your partner, you can both take the test here. Then, read on to discover some ideas for memorable dates, based on each one. 

Activity

If your partner has the Activity Love Style, lots of the classic bucket list ideas will go down a treat! People with this Love Style relish quality time with their partner: engaging in new experiences, creating memories and having plenty of fun along the way. 

Here are some bucket list ideas they’ll love: 

• Go on an adventure: Take on an adrenaline-fuelled experience together—something you’ll never forget, like skydiving, bungee jumping or training from a marathon.
• Plan a romantic weekend away: Head to a city or town you’ve both always wanted to visit and fill your time with fun activities like exploring new sights and trying out local delicacies. 
• Go to a gig in another city: Find a band, singer or comedian you both love and plan the weekend around attending their gig—discovering the city, trying new restaurants and, of course, seeing your favorite act. 
• Create a dream jar: Set the mood with candles, cozy up and dream big. Write down all the adventures you want to have together—whether it's seeing the Northern Lights or going to Bali—and drop them into the jar for future date-night inspiration.
• Discover your local town: A more budget-friendly bucket list idea is to act like a tourist in your own town. Spend the day wandering through parts you’ve overlooked, trying new bars and restaurants, and soaking up the local history. 

Appreciation

If your partner has the Appreciation Love Style, they want to know you love them through your words and actions. You can incorporate this into your bucket list by coming up with dates that encourage you to express your feelings for each other. 

Here’s some ideas to start with: 

• Create a memory box: Craft a personalized box where you both store small tokens from special moments. These could be ticket stubs, love notes or trinkets that remind you of milestones in your relationship. 
• Write each other heartfelt love letters: Host a candlelit date night where you both share your love for each other by putting pen to paper. Then, swap letters and take turns reading them aloud.
• Create an affirmation jar: Fill a jar with handwritten notes of appreciation, gratitude, and positive affirmations for each other. Whenever either of you needs a lift, you can pick one out to remind you of the love you share.
• Design a personalized annual calendar: Make a custom calendar that celebrates your shared history and future—marking anniversaries, travel memories and exciting plans.
• Recreate your first date: Take a walk down memory lane by revisiting the place where you had your first date. Reflect on why you fell for each other, how you’ve grown together and what you’re excited for in the future.  

Emotional

People with the Emotional Love Style feel loved when their partner shows up for them, acting as a pillar of support and strength when the going gets tough. While you might be scratching your head at how this translates to dates, there are actually plenty of ideas! The underlying thread? Bucket list ideas that foster emotional closeness and vulnerability. 

Here’s some ideas:

• Volunteer together: Volunteering as a couple is a wonderful way to connect on a deeper emotional level and cultivate gratitude. Start by discussing what causes are close to your hearts. Then, find a charity that ticks the boxes, and sign-up to volunteer together. This could be at a one-off event, or even on a weekly or monthly basis. 
• Have a ‘deep questions’ date night: Set aside an evening where you really talk with one another, sharing your fears, hopes and dreams. Here are some date night question ideas to get the ball rolling. 
• Go on a joint digital detox: Phone away! This bucket list idea involves disconnecting from the digital world and focusing entirely on one another for the weekend. You might want to go somewhere special, or even have a tech-free staycation at home. 
• Fundraise for a charity together: Whether it’s running a charity race, hosting a bake sale or organizing a karaoke night, planning a fundraiser together is a brilliant team-building activity, with plenty of opportunities for mutual support and appreciation.  
• Create an accountability club: Do you know what your partner’s goals are, and are you helping them achieve them? Creating an accountability club is a great way to tick both boxes. Sit down and discuss your personal goals, asking thoughtful questions about how you can support each other emotionally and practically. Then, put it into action! 

Financial

For individuals with the Financial Love Style, receiving love comes in the form of financial generosity. It’s not that they want lots of gifts (although, those are always nice!). Rather, they want to know that you’re willing to share your resources with them: to look after them and provide them with comfort.

Here are some bucket list ideas that will delight people with this Love Style:

• Take them on a surprise weekend away: Plan a trip to somewhere you know your significant other would love to go. Ask them to keep the weekend free, but don’t tell them the destination. They’ll love the surprise. 
• Go to a craft class together: If your partner is naturally creative, they’ll love the gift of a joint-craft class—something like pottery, painting or candle making. Not only is it a great way to spend quality time together, but you’ll also both leave with keepsakes to remember the date by. 
• Host a dinner party with their loved ones: Surprise your partner with a dinner party at a restaurant you know they love, with all their favorite people in attendance. 
• Create a 10 year vision: Light some candles, pour a glass of wine, and sit down to talk about your long-term aspirations. Discuss everything from career goals to finances, and map out how you envision your future together in the coming years.
• Try all your local restaurants: Make a shared goal to find your favorite nearby restaurant, gradually trying different ones in your area until you settle on the one that deserves top spot. 

Intellectual

People with the Intellectual Love Style crave a meeting of the minds. They want to learn, grow and expand—and look to their partners to help them do so. That means they don’t want dates that are just fun, they want experiences that will broaden their horizons. 

With that in mind, here’s some inspiration: 

• Learn a new skill together: Be it learning a new language, taking up photography or becoming a better cook, embarking on a course together will be thoroughly enjoyable for the both of you—and your partner will love the learning factor involved. 
• Join a non-fiction book club: Find a local book club focused on non-fiction (or start your own!) and make it a weekly or monthly tradition. It’s a great way to open the floor for thought-provoking discussions.
• Have a ‘personality test’ date: Take a deeper dive into each other’s personalities with a date night where you both take different personality tests. The Enneagram and 16 Types test are both wonderful ways to learn more about each other, while sparking meaty conversations about psychology. 
• Visit a world wonder: Whether it’s one of the seven wonders of the world, or one that is closer to home, heading to a historical sight and taking a tour will be a memorable date with plenty of opportunities to learn. 
• Invent something together: Do you or your partner have a business idea you’re yet to pursue? Making your dream a bucket list goal might be the perfect way to move from concept to reality. Start small, with a date night where you brainstorm ideas, your target audience and conduct some research. Then, you can work together to bring your ideas to life. 

Physical 

If your partner has the Physical Love Style, they want to be close to you—literally. For them, care and intimacy are about physical touch. Hugs, kisses and holding hands all mean the world to them. 

They’ll love these bucket list ideas: 

• Take a dance course together: Learning how to dance is a great way to be physically close while having plenty of fun. Plus, you’ll wow your friends next time you hit the dance floor! 
• Enjoy a spa day: Unwind together at a spa retreat. Take a fitness class together, enjoy a couple’s massage and relax in the hot tub. 
• Go to a drive-in movie: Go for an old school date to a drive-in movie theatre. Snuggle up with your partner, share popcorn and watch a great film under the stars.
• Build a sofa fort: A low-key but highly rewarding bucket list idea for this Love Style is to build a sofa fort together. Get all your blankets, pillows and duvet, then snuggle up together watching movies for the day. 
• Go on a camping trip: Camping trips present countless opportunities for physical closeness, all while enjoying beautiful scenery. Cuddle up roasting smores by the fire, get cosy in your tent and go on long hikes together. 

Practical

People with the Practical Love Style feel most loved when their partner tries to lighten their load. While, in the everyday, this means small gestures like unloading the dishwasher or filling up their gas, it also translates to some pretty rewarding bucket list ideas. 

Here are some activities this Love Style will appreciate: 

• Start a garden: Spend some quality time together creating a beautiful garden—or indoor herb garden if you live in an apartment. Sit down together discussing what you want to grow, purchase everything you need, and then watch as the fruits of your labor bloom! 
• Do a home decor DIY project together: Improve your home while having all-important quality time by working on a DIY project. You could reupholster some furniture, paint a room or even remodel your kitchen. While there’ll be some hard work involved, your partner will greatly appreciate your effort and thought. 
• Plan a dream holiday together: Instead of daydreaming about your next trip, sit down together and plan it out—lock-in your budget, choose your destination, pick out accommodations and book some activities. Getting everything sorted will allow people with the Practical Love Style to start feeling excited! 
• Cook dinners from around the world together once a week: Turn meal prep into a fun, culinary adventure. Each week, pick a country and cook a traditional dish, scoring each one as you go.  
• Host a cleaning party: Spend a weekend at home, rejuvenating your space. Dedicate the time to decluttering, reorganizing, and refreshing your surroundings, creating an even more comfortable, cozy space to relax and enjoy together.

Did we give you enough ideas? We hope so! It's so important for couples to have activities that fill each other's love tanks, and using the Love Styles as a guide can help you do that. Even if you have totally different Love Styles, you can use these bucket list ideas to find common ground or trade off activities to make sure you're both getting what you need.